Researchers have spent years trying to develop a "pink pill" for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? This book makes crystal clear, that pill will never exist - but as a result of the research that's gone into it, scientists have learned more about how women's sexuality works than we ever thought possible.

‘As a literary work, Nagoski’s book deserves plaudits for the rare achievement of merging pop science and the sexual self-help genre in prose that’s not insufferably twee … ‘You are normal!’ doesn’t sound much like a battlecry, but in a world keen to sexually homogenise women from the gap of their thighs to the shape of their mons pubis, the sentiment lands like a bomb.’

‘Come As You Are screams female empowerment loud and proud.’

‘It's the science of sex, decoded and demystified. Want to be educated on the latest findings about female genitalia? Of course you do. Empowering and sex-positive at best, this informative read makes for an enticing bedfellow.’

‘Emily Nagoski’s liberating insight into female sexuality is life-changing.’

‘At its core Come As You Are is a battle cry to feel confident in your own skin and banish the question “Am I normal?” once and for all.’

‘This is the best book I have ever read about sexual desire and why some couples just stop having sex, and what they can do about it. Come as You Are is an absolutely necessary guide for all couples who want to understand the ups and downs in their own sex life. It is a must read!’

‘Emily Nagoski has written one of the most important books about sex any woman (or anybody else) could ever pick up, full of insights that are both fascinating and deeply useful. Synthesizing new research and theory about sexuality with old-school sex-positive information of the sort you didn't learn in sex ed (unless, perhaps, you are a Unitarian, or Scandinavian, or lucky enough to be in Dr. Nagoski's class), I guarantee Come as You Are will open minds and change lives.’

‘Wonderful new language to help us articulate to women (and their lovers) what is going on.’

‘I recommend this book a lot … so much just clicked for me when I read this book.’

‘Emily Nagoski is worth her weight in TED Talks, and Come as You Are is a master-class in the science of sex.’

‘This is the best book I have ever read exploring the science of female sexuality. I am a total evangelist for Nagoski’s work … You think you know how women’s sexuality works? I can guarantee that you do not. Not until you read this, anyway. The book is definitely great for college students and for bright high schoolers as well.’

‘[Nagoski] explains that all the questions she’s asked about sex can be condensed into one, ‘Am I normal?’ Come As You Are is a collection of answers to that question, informed by current science, as well as personal stories. She intends to ‘empower’ her readers ‘to reach for and achieve [their] own profound and unique sexual potential’ … Readable and accessible through a comprehensive index, Come As You Are will help many women concerned about their sexuality.’

‘This title is both a manifesto and a sex education manual that will empower women to be at peace with their bodies and their sexual well-being ... An essential purchase for consumer health and women’s health collections. This book will empower women to fully understand why their sexual desire is so different from men’s.’ STARRED REVIEW

‘Absolutely jam packed with helpful insight into a better sex life. You'll want to tell all your friends immediately.’

‘Like a punch to the gut. When I read the passage that made me realise — after all these years — that I was not actually broken, I began to cry … I wished [Nagoski] was someone who was actively in my life, someone I could reach out to for grounding every time I momentarily forgot the lessons in her book.’

‘Lots of books — and articles and experts — claim to have the keys to transform your sex life. This one actually has it. It isn't as fast as taking a pill, but it will last a whole lot longer. You will find no hot new bedroom moves — it's that deeper-level soul stuff. You know, the stuff that actually works.’

‘A fantastic resource.’

Emily Nagoski is Wellness Education Director and Lecturer at Smith College, where she teaches Women’s Sexuality. She has a PhD in Health Behavior with a doctoral concentration in human sexuality from Indiana University (IU), and a master’s degree (also from IU) in counseling, with a clinical internship at the Kinsey Institute Sexual Health Clinic. She has taught graduate and undergraduate classes in human sexuality, relationships and communication, stress management, and sex education. She is the author of three guides for Ian Kerner’s GoodInBed.com, including the Guide to Female Orgasm, and she writes the popular sex blog, TheDirtyNormal.com. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller Come As You Are.